Watching Little Mister, my least social child, at the birthday party this weekend, I said a prayer of thanks again that he can school at home. Although he enjoys people, he is smart like I was, and just isn't thinking along the same lines as the other kids his age. Putting him in school would not change his nature, as it did not change mine; it just gives lots of semi-supervised opportunities for torment and bullying, which tears apart kids' self-image. Instead, we gather at family events with a wide range of ages and interests. Lots of parents around means that kids aren't usually mean to each other. Mister can find an adult or an older kid who will talk with him about the physics of using the teeter-totter as a catapult, while his little brother runs around yelling like a banshee for the sheer joy of it.
It's not that Mister is unsocialized; if he gets with a buddy who likes Minecraft or LEGOs or trains or science, he'll have a great time. He just struggles as I did with activities that are highly athletic, and not too cerebral. (Bean, on the other hand, thrives in such a situation!) Still, by the end of the birthday party, he'd found a niche and still had a great time.
For Curly, my super-social child, it's just a matter of finding people. Just about anyone will do: she makes friends at the drop of a hat. But her closest friend plays Breyer horses with her, and they build fairy houses and both have pet bunnies.
Bean is surprisingly extroverted too. He loves people, and loves to have a good time. He's certainly always ready for a party. Abi loves to find a group of girls to play and giggle with. Her bestie moved away this year, which made her sad. I hope she finds another good friend soon. Until she does, she has a lot of kids around to play with!