Thursday, October 23, 2008

Adoption Agencies and the Issue of Race

A family picture from the AIM Website

One of the agencies that the Idaho Youth Ranch works with in their Trans-Racial Adoption program is Alternatives in Motion based in Houston, Texas. According to the IYR adoption specialist, the other that they commonly collaborate with is Catholic Charities in Louisiana. One of these two agencies will most likely be the one that we use to get our new family member.

Our next step now that we have most of our homestudy application done is to do some training on Trans-Racial Adoptions. We are being sent DVD's and reading material on the subject, much of it testimonials by people who were raised in Trans-Racial families. It's also to be sure we want to adopt a child of a different race, that we are not just going that route so we don't have to wait so long for a baby.

For me, that's not the case at all. I am excited to have an AA baby and I want our child to be proud of her race. My only fear is that she will feel so out of place that it will make her unhappy. I don't want that to happen and I hope the training addresses it.


  1. The training will cover those issues. We did the training and ended up realizing that our motives at the time were wrong. We were in the quicker route camp. Thankfully things worked out the way they did because it wouldn't have been fair to a little kiddo if our motives were for ANY baby versus the baby God had for us. I can see where our desperation got the best of us. Now that we have a child when we adopt our 2nd or 3TD our hearts will be right.

  2. AIM is a great agency if you go with them! I also have met people who have worked with Catholic Charities and have been very happy with them!

  3. That's cool that you know that now. Of course it is always hard to tell whether our hearts are 100% right and so easy to second guess, but I truly want a minority baby. I am not in a hurry and I would not at all mind waiting for a white baby but after seeing TexasT's family and other mixed families around here, I think it is almost easier with a different race, at least for us. Nobody will tell us she looks like us at least!

    But I do worry about the child. I don't want her to get a lot of flack in school or from others. I know it will happen some but I hate to think that one our children would feel as if she did not belong, especially when we have two bio children already. I hope we can do a good job explaining to her how much we really DO want her and specifically her, that we chose her and chose her race and we are proud of her. That is my hope anyway.

  4. I'm sure you will have challenges but here is the reality. YOU are giving her a family and regardless of stuff that will happen because it will, she will be loved by you and will be in a permanent home. :) Yay! I know you will equip her and will do your very best by her. I'm excited to see your family story unfold more and more!