Ok, so I was reading a blog tonight by a couple who are planning to adopt a baby and they were avidly raising money to do so. It struck me tonight that this is weird. They are raising money to get a baby. Does that mean they are buying a baby? I really, really want to adopt a baby. I want a third baby and I don't want to go through the pure hell that my pregnancies were for a third time. I want our family to have five people in it. But I don't want to pay $20,000 for a baby, although assuredly they are worth much, much more, worth so much that it is ludicrous to put a dollar amount on a human life.
I want another baby so badly I dream about it at night.
My question tonight as I read about this other family who is selling T-shirts to fund their adoption is this: Why do we pay for things like this? Why do adoption agencies charge $20,000? Answer: because someone out there will pay it.
At first I thought that it's no different than the cost of having a baby. But it is. Fist of all medical care is crazy-stupid-outrageous-don't-get-me-even-started-on-that-subject. It reminds me of getting an itemized hospital bill and noticing with chagrin that the band-aid that your nurse put on the hole in your arm where they gave you the shot cost $6.98. Not the shot, the band-aid. Why do we comparison shop in Wal-Mart for band-aids to find the box that costs under $4 but the hospital charges us $6.98 for a single band-aid? Because we pay it. Or in this case our insurance company pays it.
Same thing here. How can kids in the foster care system be the kids they are begging us to take, almost paying us to take while adoption agencies charge the equivalent of a house down-payment to adopt a kid? Are some kids worth less than others in the general scheme of things? Are we allowing trafficking in humans? Do we have discount kids? "Free Kid, over this way." Can the adopted kid say to the other adopted kid, How much did YOUR parents pay for you?
Stuff like this really bugs me. It bugs me that terrific couples have to sell T-shirts and fund-raise to get a kid while teen girls standing downwind from teen boys can have as many kids as they want. It bugs me that we live in a country where someone this evening killed a baby for convenience while I sit here wanting another baby so badly I can taste it yet I cannot have one because I don't have a hefty chunk to pay an adoption agency or 50-square-feet of spare spare bedroom space for the state licensor to approve. It bugs me that we pay the hospital $6.98 for a band-aid and just go on with life because we have insurance, so that makes it okay.
Why can't life be more fair?
I am positive that this couple will raise the money they need in order to adopt their kid. My point is: they should not have to.
Does anyone out there have a baby they don't want? No, I'm not offering to buy it.